Ηas your relationship started to take its toll on you and your partner? If you have been together with your partner for quite a while and things aren’t as sizzling as they were in the beginning of your relationship–but don’t exactly wish to end your relationship, perhaps it’s time to do a few things to keep the flames burning and reignite the passion you two once had.
Here is how to keep the flames burning for the love:
1. Experiment with different “get together” and date ideas than usual
If you usually hang out at the same spot e.g that college cafeteria or spend 99% of your days at home lounging and watching movies (besides the obvious stuff), it’s time to experiment with different place and activity ideas e.g joining a sports club for couples, going to a fancy restaurant or even that dream holiday destination you’ve always wanted to go.
Bonus: if you surprise your partner with that change, things will get even more exciting for both of you.
2. Avoid having too much or too little intimacy
When it comes to intimacy e.g kiss, cuddling, sex and all that stuff, the two opposites sides of the spectrum can really wear out your relationship.
If it’s too much, you will eventually grow tired of it and if it’s too little, it will eventually come to a point where you two are no longer intimate at all.
As a rule of thumb, the best frequency for having sex (according to experts) should be 1-2 times a week to keep the flames alive. Cuddling and kissing should be more regular but nothing excessive.
3. Avoid being too casual and revealing to your partner
Even if you been together for years and you know each other from the inside out, there are some things that can make your relationship fizzle out faster than spelling “cumin”.
If you are so casual to the point that your partner sees you change your dirty underwear or go a day or two without showering and taking care of your looks, you just send the message that you really don’t care about yourself and the other person.
Little gross habits may seem innocent but they actually make you look lazy, disgusting and just plain disrespectful. What you should do instead is to add an element of mystery and don’t reveal everything that you are what you do in private to your partner.
4. Don’t sweat on the small stuff
If you are always criticizing your partner and your overall relationship about little annoying details that don’t really matter e.g fighting about who’s going to take the trash out or the dog for a walk, you aren’t really helping your relationship stay healthy and exciting.
Whenever you find yourself sweating on the small stuff, try calmly to seek a resolution or compromise with your partner so things become fair for both of you e.g you do chore X on the weekends and he does another chore during a weekday.